I am wondering if I'm the only person with this particular conundrum, so , I'm just gonna put it out there. Lately I'm having difficulty fantasizing during my "private" moments. There. I said it. Every one I come up with has some characteristic that turns me "off" instead of "on". They're either dead (Jim Morrison, James Dean, Marlon Brando...the young Brando), not real ("Jack Sparrow", "Walter Skinner ") or just inappropriate.
Any guy who's married, and there are two in my life I find very appealing; of course what I find most appealing about them is they both talk very highly of their wives and children; to me, that's a big turn on. Yet, I can't fantasize about them because that would be disrespectful to their families. Naturally, I've mustered up thoughts of old flames but just when I think it might be working, I remember some dumb ass thing they did or said and, gone...turned off.
I seriously haven't been able to come up with one good fantasy guy. The single carpenter across the street, very cute, but he smokes...turn off. I've even attempted to think of women (like Angelina Jolie) but I find myself thinking "I'd like to look like her" rather than being excited by the way they look . I've realized as I've gotten older, what turns me on the most is a guy who can stimulate...MY MIND. How do you get THAT from your imagination during your "private" times? WAIT! Maybe I'll play audio of Einstein's Theory of Relativity while thinking of Jeff Buckley....ugh...no, he's too young...and he's dead. um, Terrence Howard? I don't think I've tried him yet...and he was phenomenal in that new movie "The Hunting Party"! Excuse me, won't you?
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Oh Julie!!!! I couldn't believe my eyes when I read this..hehe.. but seriously.. hmm.. I'm not an expert on "private" moments.. believe me.. I guess I'd be the LAST person to really be helpful or understand.. but I'll try:)..
Coming up with dead people, yeah I can understand that would be a little creepy... And you said "not real.." Does that mean it wouldn't "work" for you to think of someone who isn't real? Do they need to be a concrete person or do you know that they're not real and who they really are bothers you? lol.. I don't know.. maybe you need to just think up the man of your dreams and HOPE he is real...lol And I agree about the girl thing.. not "Angelina Jolie" specifically, but.. I look and say..damn.. I wish I looked like that..not damn.. that's hot..lol.
I understand about married guys.. I mean.. I look at my friends with their significant others and I think how awesome that person is and how I want to be with someone like them, but I think that is because I spent three years in a "loveless" relationship where the person I was with told me basically that they "loved" someone else on a daily basis and intended on cheating on me a number of times.. so maybe it's just having that lack of care that leaves you wanting.. not those people specifically, but someone who would feel that way about you.
I guess it's just that looks aren't always everything, but a guy (or girl) has to have a good head and a good heart:)...
I don't have any fantasies to loan to you..lol.. sorry.. and I can't think anything up..
Well good luck with that..lol
OMG!! U R 2 Funny, girl... Did you come up w/all that while we were on vacation??? I was just doin' a search on ur name and saw all these blogs!!! And it's makes me proud to call you my very own friend... YEAH!!!
Friends forever!!! Denise
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